I’m Khorry Carlos, and I want to welcome you to this space where we can journey together, share our hearts, and grow deeper in our faith as seafarers’ wives. I understand the unique struggles you face—because I’ve walked in those same shoes.
You see, before I began working ashore, I was a seafarer just like my husband. We were classmates at the maritime academy, dreaming of a life together on the high seas. But what we didn’t realize then was just how challenging it would be to maintain a marriage and a family when both partners are constantly sailing away from home. There were times when we were apart for months on end, our only connection being the occasional email, snail mail or video call.
The loneliness, the worry, and the heartache of being separated from my husband were heavy burdens to carry. And when I finally came ashore to have beautiful children, the challenges didn’t end there. Being at home, managing everything on my own while my husband was away, was difficult. I often felt overwhelmed, questioning how I could keep everything together. I felt so alone.
But here’s the truth: I didn’t do it alone. I couldn’t have.
It was God’s grace that carried me through those stormy seas. Every tear, every prayer whispered in the quiet of the night, was heard by a loving Father who never left my side. The struggles taught me to lean not on my own understanding, but on the One who holds all things together.
One of the verses that became my anchor during those difficult times is:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight
Proverbs 3:5-6
This promise gave me the strength to face each day, knowing that God was with me, guiding my steps, and holding our family in His hands.
Now, my husband and I have both come ashore for good, serving as maritime instructors and raising our children together. The lessons I learned during those years at sea and at home without him are now the foundation of my mission to help other seafarers’ wives like you. I know how tough it can be, but I also know that with God’s help, you can build a strong, Christ-centered home, no matter the challenges you face.
I’m here to share the wisdom God has given me through those experiences. My prayer is that as you read through the resources on this site, you’ll find encouragement, practical advice, and a deep sense of God’s presence in your own journey. Remember, sis, you don’t have to navigate these waters alone. God is with you, and I’m here to walk alongside you as well.
But I have prayed for you, Simon. I have prayed that your faith will not fail. When you have turned back, help your brothers to be strong.”
Luke 22:32
All the glory for any good that has come from my life goes to God alone. It is His grace that has brought me this far, and it is His grace that will carry you too. Together, let’s build our homes on the solid rock of Christ, trusting that He will guide us through every storm.
“Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.
